So there are many things that bug me in this world, because you know, I am human. For example; the lack of support from the government as a teacher, the old ‘I’m not racist/sexist/homophobic etc. BUT...’ line, judgemental people, trash TV like Love Island/Big Brother etc., the Conservative Party being in power, men who wear flip flops or shoes without socks etc., people that park in front of your driveway regardless of the drop curb or even on your drive! I mean, the cheek of it. I think you get what I mean. I could go on of course but that would be boring. But there is one thing of late that’s really starting to get on my nerves. Mum memes that imply all mums are raging alcoholics!
I mean, why does every meme insist that to ‘survive’ her children a woman must drink copious amounts of wine? WTF is that all about anyway? Are people implying that as women, we can’t cope with the everyday pressures of motherhood? I mean, yeah the worlds a pretty F’d up place at the moment, what with the likes of Donald Trump and Theresa May being in charge of entire countries (I know right!) but do people really still live with that kind of low level sexism? We are currently being bombarded with sexist discrimination in the work place. The BBC and its inequality in salaries between men and women is a hot topic on the news and social media at the moment. Equality in the work place is very important. Inequality is not something I’ve had to deal with but I fully support the women of the BBC in their quest.
It just frustrates me more than anything because it kind of belittles the mental well-being of mums. We can’t cope, so we must drink. Not one ounce of support for any mother struggling. No words of advice for us. It makes me feel like our mental health as mothers is just a bit of a joke. I don’t know, maybe I’m just over thinking this as a person that chooses not to drink alcohol. I’m not here to bash mums who do have a drink at the end of the day, I just cant understand why this meme has become so popular. Would I be as offended if it implied that as a mother all I need is a slice of cake (let’s be real, it would be the whole damn cake!) to get me through the day? Or maybe even coffee. Coffee I would understand as we are mostly sleep deprived. But also, why are there no memes that imply dad needs a beer after a few hours alone with the kids? Is it because he is a man, he can ‘cope’? Does he not suffer from mental illness because he is a man? I think men’s mental health is a discussion for another day but you get my point.
Anyway, I hope I am not alone in this thought. Let me know if you often reach for a bottle of wine or you also feel the same. Remember that as a mother, you are never alone. There are millions of us out here if you ever need a rant. We know exactly what you are going through.